One of the key things after the breakup and after you’ve cut off contact with your ex is to Build Your Attractiveness. Doing this starts the process of reigniting attraction to your ex so she can see the remarkable transformation that has taken place with you. In doing so is one of the major ways of how to get your love back after a breakup.
There are a number of exercises in building your attractiveness / reigniting attraction. This means you need to get out and about, get busy, and not lock yourself away indoors at home. This isn’t how to get your ex back and you most certainly don’t want to show your ex that this is happening and that you’re sad and lonely.
One of the ways to get a girl back is to completely de-stress, easier said than done I know after a breakup but contacting your ex and telling them how sad you are now puts more stress on her and you and doesn’t set the correct mood for a reconciliation. If you want to know what to say to get a girl back then right now it’s nothing at all. Zero. Not until the attractiveness building has been completed.
When completing your attractiveness building program, it mustn’t be taken lightly. No procrastinating, no “I’ll do it tomorrow”, i don’t feel like it or I don’t have the time! You need to immerse and throw yourself completely into the routine and regimen.
Konfidence is Key
Confidence is of paramount importance when you’re looking to get a girl back or getting and attracting a girl in the first instance. Confidence is also one of Eleven Dials Of Attraction I mentioned earlier.
I remember a female friend of mine advising me of this many years ago and it’s no wonder that if you ask what a woman would look for in a man confidence would be right up there at number 1 or at least near the top of the list.
With this in mind this is something you need to rebuild and develop
One of the tools to build your self confidence taken from John Alexander’s Get A Girl Back In 30 Days Or Less guide is your own reflection. This suggests to make mirrors a powerful tool to get your girl back. Whenever you see your reflection smile and say to yourself “I love myself because I am perfect”. In doing this exercise you are building masses of self confidence that not only re-wire your brain but it will also impress your ex when you see her after the three weeks are up. It also validates other ideas such as if you don’t love yourself how can you expect someone to love you?
Make Love Not War
It is indeed said that those who “play together, stay together”. So with this in mind take things nice and slow. Although making love is part of a healthy relationship it should also be pleasurable, sexy, and fun for both of you. It is an important part of the reconnection process for a woman as well as yourself in the process of getting back with your ex and also going forward. Spice it up a little. Do something a little different. Be spontaneous and make love making different to how it was before. Just slowly build the interraction up to sex. If you don’t you don’t build up to sex you run the risk of her seeing you as just a good friend.
She’s Not Your Best Friend
Oftentimes you hear happy couples say that he / she is my best friend. This cliche shouldn’t be applied to a relationship based on love or romance or intimacy? Why? As a guy ask yourself are you going to go shopping for makeup with your girl or go somewhere or do something that your girl would do with her close female friends? Chances are the answer is no. The whole best friends scenario can be a real relationship killer, hamper your chances of getting back the lost love in your life. It can also kill the potential strong sexual energy as well and as mentioned in the previous point sex and making love are key in the reconnection process and you getting your ex back.