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Based on John Alexander’s guide Get A Girl Back In 30 Days Or Less , the simple 4 step formula to getting back with your girlfriend are:

1. Tell her you’re okay with her decision to break up, and then act like you’re okay with it.
2. Become an attractive man who has other women interested in him.
3. Contact her on Day 21 indicating you want to be “friends.”
4. Get her to hang out with you and see the remarkable transformation you’ve undergone.

These tips of how to get a girl back are crucial so that means guys after you tell your love that you’re happy with the decision to break up, that’s it, don’t contact or pursue her again until you complete the rest of the steps. Yes, this also includes resisting the temptation to beg your ex to take you back when you feel you’re at your lowest. This is one of the main mistakes us guys make after a breakup, we pursue our loves and try to contact them hoping for a reply, hoping for a reconciliation, hoping these actions will bring back your lost love.

However, is this the correct course of action where potentially you can show yourself as a desperate and needy character?

Or is it perhaps better to “Build Your Attractiveness”  as per step 2 while cutting off contact with your ex for 3 weeks better?

Building your attractiveness could be doing something better in your life such as having lots going on in your life. For example joining that gym you’ve been meaning to do, or joining that yoga or cookery class you’ve seen in your town or changing your wardrobe? Essentially putting yourself in a higher, desirable position than your girlfriend so she can look up (not down) and maybe go “wow !” and see what she’s missing!

After 3 weeks and after your transformation, contact your ex and indicate you’re happy with the decision and you want to be friends. It might be the last thing you think of doing but it’s the last thing your ex will expect too. After reading John Alexander’s Get A Girl Back In 30 Days Or Less guide, this strategy felt like a passive / aggressive approach that logically is sound.

After that get her to go out with you as friends and let her see what’s changed.

John Alexander’s  report makes you think , questions your actions and judgements, make you see things differently and open your mind to other possibilities that may, just may help you to get your ex girlfriend back.

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My aim was to create a John Alexander’s How To Get A Girl Back In 30 Days Or Less Review and after reading through his eye opening guide I learnt some interesting things.  A lot of what John Alexander describes makes a lot of logical sense in theory and practice however a lot of us guys appear to make common mistakes when trying get your ex back. These common mistakes we make are borne out of trying to do what we think is the right thing, desperation, frustration, being a nice guy and responding to and dealing with that initial shock of the break up.

I’ve been there myself. The feeling of the world falling in, the little reminders from places you and your partner went to, birthdays, Valentines, smells all trigger memories and you just want to have these feelings again, to get your girlfriend back, or get your wife back and not want to associate these things with the feelings you have now and the bad place you feel you’re in.

Society says that if you’re a nice guy you can get your dream girl and live happily ever after. This is, perhaps, actually misleading.

Why I hear you say? Well being nice isn’t necessarily a bad. However catering for your loves every whim, every need, all of the time gives her a sense of power. Over time she may tire of this, feel bored or unchallenged. This constant giving could be seen by her as a sense of lack of self respect perhaps and it could also be seen as you, the nice guy, playing a role that is being ‘submissive’ and your love playing a more ‘dominant’ role in the relationship.  John Alexander in his guide picked this out and advised how to change to a more Alpha, dominant male.

Could it be then, why sometimes, after a break up, you see some women getting back with their exes who are ‘bad’ or ‘dangerous’ where they essentially seek a relationship where their ex plays the more dominant role?

This is proven from a case study from John Alexander’s guide where, Luke, a person who John coached, broke up with his girlfriend, he tried to get his love back by contacting her constantly. She wasn’t interested and ultimately ended up back with her ex who verbally abused her and treated her badly. It was at this point Luke turned to John for help who explained the Four Step Formula and the Eleven Dials of Attraction.

More on this later.

You can read about Luke’s Story by reading John Alexander’s preview guide, How To Get A Girl Back In 30 Days Or Less Preview.

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